Daniel Auteuil directs and stars in Marius and its sequel Fanny. Drama, humor, and dialogue combine to make two beautiful, thought provoking films. Set in Marseille, these movies explore the dynamics of family, community, and romance, as well as the choices we make and their consequences.
I was thinking about the post I wrote the other day in response to the role of good food in a relationship. In my answer, I wrote, “They say that married men are healthier than bachelors, which is probably due in large part to their eating home-cooked meals instead of restaurant food, fast food, or processed microwavable dinners.”
I reflected on some of the married couples I see when walking around town, a lot of men with huge beer bellies who can be easily categorized as obese. Some of the women they are with are in relatively decent shape. So what does this mean? Ideally, it is great if two people in a relationship are on the same page when it comes to healthy eating and exercise and, therefore, support each other in maintaining that lifestyle. But in the end, it is nobody else’s responsibility to ensure you eat healthily and exercise; the responsibility rests squarely on your own shoulders. Having negative influences around you is not an excuse. If your girlfriend happens to consume pies and Twinkies for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, it is your responsibility to spread out the tuna salad, fresh fruit, and water. If your boyfriend is a slob and eats buckets of KFC and donuts every day; it is your responsibility to eat a salad and a healthy sandwich. Yes, studies conclude that married men live longer, but that doesn’t mean that just because someone ties the knot they will reflect that statistic. It is up to each person to make wise choices, especially if one’s significant other does not.
I received an interesting question.
Question for Paul: How important do you think it is for a woman to be able cook in a long-term relationship (marriage)?
It is very important. Food is a central part of life. It is also an enjoyable part of our existence on earth and an element of the joie de vivre. Furthermore, and probably most importantly, the kind of food that you eat is crucial to your long-term health. They say that married men are healthier than bachelors, which is probably due in large part to their eating home-cooked meals instead of restaurant food, fast food, or processed microwavable dinners. It’s important to eat healthy and enjoyable meals.
A few obvious things must be said before we go further:
- Many of the greatest chefs in the world are men.
- A man may love to cook and be pretty good at it.
- If a man loves the woman he’s with and she can’t cook for the life of her, then he might have to just learn to cook.
Okay, we got that out of the way. To specifically address your question, you should screen the girl– that’s what dating is about. Is she smart, funny, a good person, faithful, caring, and responsible? Is she a good cook? Here’s what you do: just have her make the two of you a nice dinner on the third or fourth date. You can buy her the groceries and make an adventure out of it. If you find that she can’t cook at all and it tastes horrible, you can make a decision.
There are millions of girls out there, but you only have one stomach.
Hope this helps!
La vie est belle, profitez de chaque moment
My mother read this post and told me to add this: “Anyone can learn to follow a recipe or watch YouTube. Cooking is a skill just like any other and one that has to be developed just by caring for a family. So even if she can’t cook at first, don’t give up hope. She can learn.” She also said that the photo I used was not very appetizing and that I should have used a photo of a “beautiful salad.” So to the questioner…maybe you should have asked a mother instead of a bachelor.