I recently returned from beautiful Lyon, France, where I worked for a month. It was great to be in France again and I look forward to returning in May. I stayed in a renovated apartment in a 16th century building (in historic Vieux Lyon, a UNESCO world heritage site). It had a unique staircase, which was built without a core.
Here are some photos that I took during my stay:
A week ago, I took my parents on a Hawaiian vacation. We stayed in a Honolulu apartment, a block from Waikiki beach. My father is rehabilitating from successful neck surgery.
A few of the highlights from our trip were the visit to the Polynesian Cultural Center and the awesome show “Ha, the Breath of Life,” drinking a delicious non-alcoholic Hakka at Yauatcha, almond-pineapple-coconut croissants at the b. patisserie Waikiki International Market Place, and crepes with fresh local fruit at Arrancio di Mare.
I also enjoyed getting up early and taking my boogie board in the warm ocean water. On Saturday night, I went to the oceanfront Rumfire nightclub at the Sheraton-Waikiki, where the atmosphere was friendly and full of energy.
Here are some photos from our trip:
I just deleted the Hillary Clinton is a Warmonger video. It showed some of the graphic casualties that have resulted from her immoral and illegal policies. I deleted it because, well, my blog is a family show. But also, false modesty aside, I know more about the details of US atrocities, US criminal behavior abroad, and corruption, than 99.9% percent of the population. For years, I’ve uncovered, researched, analyzed, and scrutinized US foreign policy as it relates to international norms and laws. I’ve been a passionate student activist; spoken out in NATO, the UN, and the EU; given presentations; lectures; taught courses; ran for Congress (at age 26); written a book; and founded and directed an organization. And one must continue to stand up for justice and peace with love and compassion. Having the experience that I do, understanding so many details about U.S. foreign policy, I make an extra conscious effort to surround myself with beauty. The world is an enchanting place with music, art, wonderful people, nature, great food, funny stories, and so forth. I know the truth as it relates to my country’s role in the world, as do others, but I want to always strive to see the good in the world as well and to promote tolerance and understanding. We have one life to live, and to do so with purpose. We should seek to make the world a better place but also to enjoy it.
I was thinking about the post I wrote the other day in response to the role of good food in a relationship. In my answer, I wrote, “They say that married men are healthier than bachelors, which is probably due in large part to their eating home-cooked meals instead of restaurant food, fast food, or processed microwavable dinners.”
I reflected on some of the married couples I see when walking around town, a lot of men with huge beer bellies who can be easily categorized as obese. Some of the women they are with are in relatively decent shape. So what does this mean? Ideally, it is great if two people in a relationship are on the same page when it comes to healthy eating and exercise and, therefore, support each other in maintaining that lifestyle. But in the end, it is nobody else’s responsibility to ensure you eat healthily and exercise; the responsibility rests squarely on your own shoulders. Having negative influences around you is not an excuse. If your girlfriend happens to consume pies and Twinkies for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, it is your responsibility to spread out the tuna salad, fresh fruit, and water. If your boyfriend is a slob and eats buckets of KFC and donuts every day; it is your responsibility to eat a salad and a healthy sandwich. Yes, studies conclude that married men live longer, but that doesn’t mean that just because someone ties the knot they will reflect that statistic. It is up to each person to make wise choices, especially if one’s significant other does not.
I received an interesting question.
Question for Paul: How important do you think it is for a woman to be able cook in a long-term relationship (marriage)?
It is very important. Food is a central part of life. It is also an enjoyable part of our existence on earth and an element of the joie de vivre. Furthermore, and probably most importantly, the kind of food that you eat is crucial to your long-term health. They say that married men are healthier than bachelors, which is probably due in large part to their eating home-cooked meals instead of restaurant food, fast food, or processed microwavable dinners. It’s important to eat healthy and enjoyable meals.
A few obvious things must be said before we go further:
- Many of the greatest chefs in the world are men.
- A man may love to cook and be pretty good at it.
- If a man loves the woman he’s with and she can’t cook for the life of her, then he might have to just learn to cook.
Okay, we got that out of the way. To specifically address your question, you should screen the girl– that’s what dating is about. Is she smart, funny, a good person, faithful, caring, and responsible? Is she a good cook? Here’s what you do: just have her make the two of you a nice dinner on the third or fourth date. You can buy her the groceries and make an adventure out of it. If you find that she can’t cook at all and it tastes horrible, you can make a decision.
There are millions of girls out there, but you only have one stomach.
Hope this helps!
La vie est belle, profitez de chaque moment
My mother read this post and told me to add this: “Anyone can learn to follow a recipe or watch YouTube. Cooking is a skill just like any other and one that has to be developed just by caring for a family. So even if she can’t cook at first, don’t give up hope. She can learn.” She also said that the photo I used was not very appetizing and that I should have used a photo of a “beautiful salad.” So to the questioner…maybe you should have asked a mother instead of a bachelor.