I was thinking about the post I wrote the other day in response to the role of good food in a relationship. In my answer, I wrote, “They say that married men are healthier than bachelors, which is probably due in large part to their eating home-cooked meals instead of restaurant food, fast food, or processed microwavable dinners.”
I reflected on some of the married couples I see when walking around town, a lot of men with huge beer bellies who can be easily categorized as obese. Some of the women they are with are in relatively decent shape. So what does this mean? Ideally, it is great if two people in a relationship are on the same page when it comes to healthy eating and exercise and, therefore, support each other in maintaining that lifestyle. But in the end, it is nobody else’s responsibility to ensure you eat healthily and exercise; the responsibility rests squarely on your own shoulders. Having negative influences around you is not an excuse. If your girlfriend happens to consume pies and Twinkies for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, it is your responsibility to spread out the tuna salad, fresh fruit, and water. If your boyfriend is a slob and eats buckets of KFC and donuts every day; it is your responsibility to eat a salad and a healthy sandwich. Yes, studies conclude that married men live longer, but that doesn’t mean that just because someone ties the knot they will reflect that statistic. It is up to each person to make wise choices, especially if one’s significant other does not.